Keeping it spicy in the kitchen and in your marriage! I’ll share my favorite recipes for mostly-healthy, kid-approved meals. We’ll also chat about keeping the fire burning in your marriage. Just don’t confuse the two…fire in the kitchen is bad.
Our two year old adorably recites his favorite book.
When our youngest was 2 years old, his favorite book was “Are You My Mother?” It’s about a bird that hatches, doesn’t see his mom and leaves the nest to find her. The baby bird sees different farm animals and transportation and asks each one “are you my mother” until at last he finds her. He instinctively recognizes his mother when he finally sees her.
Our little guy heard this story so often, he had memorized it. One day, while I prepared dinner, he lay on the kitchen floor and said, “You are not a boat, an airplane or a bird. You’re my mother!” The way he said it melted my heart and also gave me confidence.
I AM his mother!
I can trust my gut and maternal instincts in raising him because I am his mother.
I can confidently provide education for my child because I am his mother.
I can decide his healthcare- choosing what does and does not go into his body…because I am his mother.
YOU are your child’s mother. And while we are grateful for child-rearing experts, doctors, teachers and that relative or friend who always has an opinion, they are not YOU.
Too many systems are vying to replace your role, trying to replace YOU. Confidently take your place as their mother. Your kids need you. They are looking for you. Trust yourself as their mom and stand in your role!
These mini Bundt cakes are my go to dessert for entertaining, special occasions and thank you gifts. They are easy to make and the perfect portion size…if you eat only one.
So without telling you the story about how I’ve been working to perfect these for the last year. How I’m so happy to be able to eat dessert that’s really similar to things I remember eating before we had to eliminate gluten, dairy and chicken eggs. Instead of telling you any story, here’s the recipe.
Oh, just one more thing. Gift yourself a Kitchen Aid mixer. The right tools make such a difference!
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Bake for 20 mins. Remove from oven, place individual bundt cakes on cooling rack or plate.
When cakes are cool, apply icing and toppings.
Your icing, you’re welcome:
3 ½ tbsp Plain Goat cheese
1 tsp Vanilla extract
2 tsp Almond milk or Goat’s milk
¾ cup Organic Powered sugar
Mi-Del gluten free graham style pie crust (crumbled up)- to taste
Enjoy Life Semi Sweet Chocolate mini chips- to taste
Our 2 year old calls these ”pup cakes.” These sweet toddler years, like these bundt cakes, don’t last long. Enjoy them both!
Hey, Mama! A sweet friend has a birthday tomorrow. The boys and I are making up a batch of these chocolate cups to give to her and I wanted to share these yummy treats with you too!
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What you’ll love about these ingredients is that they are free of the top common allergens:
Soy
Corn
Peanuts
Gluten
Dairy
Eggs
Vegan Chocolate Sunflower Butter Cups
1 1/2 cups Semi Sweet Chocolate Chips
1/2 cup Sunflower Butter
2 tbs Powdered Sugar
1/4 tsp Salt
1/2 tsp Vanilla Extract (My favorite brand is Spice Islands Pure Vanilla Extract because its corn free.)
Spray your mini muffin tin with non-stick cooking spray. Set aside.
Make your filling. Mix your sunflower butter, vanilla, salt and powdered sugar. Set this aside and try not to eat it.
Melt your chocolate chips over the lowest heat setting, stirring constantly until smooth. Remove from heat.
Put a spoonful of melted chocolate in the bottom of each mini muffin cup.
Add a quarter size dollop of your sunflower butter mixture to each cup.
Put another spoonful of melted chocolate to cover the sunflower butter.
Optional garnish: Top each cup with a dab of your sunflower butter mixture.
Place your filled mini muffin tin in the refrigerator for 15 minutes.
To remove cups, place a plate under your tin. Turn the tin sideways and tap the bottom of each cup with the back of a knife. The cups should fall out easily. Arrange on a serving tray and enjoy!
Okay, I’m going to wrap mine up and get them to the birthday girl. See you next time!
This was the life I prayed for. A wonderful, loving husband. A beautiful, healthy baby boy. So, why wasn’t I happy?
I imagined my life as a stay-at-home mom would be a little like June Clever mixed with Mary Poppins. I would meet life’s challenges with a smile and a song…while wearing pearls. In reality, I was a hot mess.
I did a lot of things wrong back in the early days of first time motherhood (don’t worry, I still do). If I could go back in time, I would lovingly and gently tell myself to CHILL OUT! But you, dear Mama, you will bask in the joy of motherhood! You will avoid these pitfalls.
Set realistic expectations for yourself, yournewborn and your household. Sis, it’s okay if your life doesn’t look like a beautifully filtered Instagram post.
You can’t do it all. You are not superwoman. That lady isn’t even real! Say no, set boundaries and ask for help.
Take care of yourself! Let me say this again.
Take care of yourself! Your body created, developed and birthed a whole life. Give it rest, proper nutrients and time to heal.
Drop kick doubt and worry! Seriously, karate chop those bad boys in the throat. You will make mistakes, there will be tears (yours, not the baby’s), and problems will arise.
But don’t you dare doubt your ability as a mother! God gave this child to YOU! He will give you wisdom and provide for your family’s needs- spiritually, physically and emotionally.
Moms of grown children say, “The days are long, but the years are short.” They are right! These days I’m feeling a little bit more like Mary Poppins. Still no pearls. But, I’ve learned to enjoy and cherish these moments. And yes, to meet life’s challenges with a smile and a song! Welcome to motherhood!
Yesterday, my husband came home with $40 he found on the ground. Ironically, that’s exactly what you and I were going to talk about!
We’ve all heard the saying, “Money doesn’t grow on trees.” It’s meant to imply that nothing comes easy and resources are limited. YOU have to work hard for EVERY penny you earn.
But, wait! If the money we make, depends solely on us, where does God fit in?
He doesn’t. Let’s invite Him in!
Grab your budget. On the income lines, add “Unexpected Blessings from God.” I’m not kidding. You don’t have to enter a dollar amount, just give God a literal space in your finances.
I’m going to share with you some of the mind blowing experiences of “finding money on trees.” Not because we’re super saved and read our Bibles everyday, pray without ceasing or fast regularly. We simply believe that His unearned favor (grace) extends to our finances and resources.
An elderly woman saw my husband playing with our oldest child. She told him he was a great dad and put some folded up bills in his hand. It was $600.
Last year, part of our vacation was paid for from $200 found in the road, $50 found by a curb, a $250 tip from a customer and $75 found in the dryer at the resort. That’s $575.
Sometimes it’s $10 on the ground, $50 under a bush, $20 in the parking lot. Sometimes it’s resources that come from unexpected people. We laugh every time with grateful hearts! Because God is good and delights in giving His children good gifts.
Dear friend, give Him space in your finances/resources and prepare to be utterly amazed by what you find “growing on trees!”
Your money. Every dollar. Is powerful. Say it again!
This isn’t about being cheap, nickel-and-diming or trying to get over. It’s about knowing your worth as a consumer.
The specifics I’ll share won’t apply to everyone. That’s okay! The point is to get you thinking about your situation and maximizing the money that you have. Are you ready? Here’s what helped us add money back into our budget.
Switching Car Insurance
I was blown away by this one! Apparently, you should shop for car insurance every two years to negotiate the best price. We saved $400/month by switching providers.
Two years later, I called the provider and asked for them to re-write my policy to see if I could get a better rate without switching. (You’re not supposed to know that, it’s an insider tip).
If your request is met with resistance, politely remind them that they are your first choice, but you do have other options. We saved another $100/month the second time.
Saving on Cellphone Service
I called our cell provider and asked if they would honor the new customer promotion. We have been loyal customers, with multiple devices on the plan and we pay our bill on time. Our contract was up and they gladly adjusted our plan
We saved an eye opening $125/month! We had literally been giving money away.
Cancelling Cable
We realized that we watched just 3 channels and were disgusted at the garbage that passes as entertainment. Why were we paying to have junk pumped into our home? Cutting the cord put $70/month back into the budget.
If you’re keeping track, that first year, we added $700/month or $8,400/annually from 3 simple adjustments. That’s huge!
All right, Mama! It’s your turn. What bills can you negotiate for a better rate? Comment below so we can celebrate each other!
Hey, Mama! We need to talk. Grab your favorite beverage and pull up a chair. It’s time for a family meeting.
You want to be a stay-at-home mom (SAHM) or you want to continue as a SAHM. I’m proud of you! But, you have legit financial concerns. So did I.
Today, I’ll share two steps that worked for us, but remember everyone’s situation is different. Treat this like a buffet. Take what you want and leave the rest. Now, grab your journal and let’s get to work!
Write down your family’s purpose. Take your time and don’t skip this step! Trust me, knowing your family’s purpose is directly tied to how you manage your money. It will also anchor you during the hard times. Think and pray through- What do I want my family’s life to look like? God puts stirrings in our heart for a reason. Pay attention to that. Follow it.
Your next piece of homework is to go through a years worth of bank statements and see what you’re spending money on. For us, eating out was in our 2-income budget. But seeing the total amount spent over a year was still surprising.
Also, look for subscriptions, auto drafts, paid apps, errors, etc. You signed up for that free trial, but forgot to cancel after 30 days? Those charges add up quickly.
These steps saved us over $3k that first year, which allowed us to pay off a debt. It may not sound like much, but don’t worry, we’re not done.
For now, that should keep you busy for a couple days until our next family meeting. We’re in this together, Sis! Talk to you soon.
“I wish I could stay home with my baby!” It’s what I heard from my co-workers when I put in my notice. It’s what I heard from friends.
I began to worry! If they couldn’t afford it on their income, how would we be able to afford it? Yet, there we were affording it, and not because we had it like that.
I kid you not! For an entire year, I worried that I would need to work outside of the home.
Even though every bill was paid.
Even though every need was met.
Even though some of our wants were met.
I listened to the people around me with kajillion dollar salaries who couldn’t afford to be stay-at-home moms. I listened to well meaning family and friends who asked how we could afford it. And I worried.
How did we make it, you ask? I’ll tell you. But for now, precious mama, bury this deep in your heart. If you have a burning desire to be home raising your children, the Lord will provide!
I didn’t get that truth early on. It took a dear friend to open my eyes to the evidence of God’s faithfulness in my life. I want the same revelation for you!
The next time we get together, I’ll give you specifics on what we did and how God filled in the gaps. But, Sis, stop worrying. You’re not alone.
The littles are still sleeping. Which means you and I have a few minutes to chat!
How did our journey begin? Well, my body flipped out during my first pregnancy. I was pretty much on bed rest from the second trimester on. I quit my job and the story begins.
“Must be nice, Tamika…” This is where I have to press pause.
My husband is self-employed and his business had just started rolling. We didn’t know how we were going to make it. But, we were determined to make whatever sacrifice was necessary to make it work.
And that’s the thought I’ll leave with you today. If you want to be a stay-at-home mom (SAHM) or continue to be a SAHM…do it!
When you want something badly enough, you figure out a way! Then you do the hard work to make it happen. You’re not in this alone. We’ll talk again soon!
You guys! I’m working on my first blog and I’m so excited!
You know I’m passionate about seeing moms who want to “stay at home” with their children succeed. The two biggest deterrents to that goal are, “I don’t know if we can afford it,” and “what will I do with my kids all day?”
Sis, I got you! We’ll go on this journey together.